Dad only for the holidays?

Thousands of dads have spent much-needed quality time with their kids this Christmas. But how can they make sure this closeness lasts through 2008?

A recent survey found that one in four kids don't count their father as being part of their family, so here's our guide for dads who want to get more involved...

Start early

The earlier you're hands-on with your child, the better. If you're a new dad you may feel awkward and unsure about what to do. The best way to overcome this is to get stuck in. You'll soon understand the difference between cries for food, sleep and a new nappy.

Balance work and family time

Young children will demand your time and attention as soon as you get home - regardless of how difficult your day has been. Try to leave work behind you by avoiding starting stressful jobs in the last half hour of the day and winding down on your way home by listening to your favourite music.

If you're regularly getting home after your child's bedtime, it may be worth speaking to your boss to see if you can negotiate flexible start and finish times or work a four-day week with longer hours during each day.

Have a 'getting home' routine

A big hug when you walk through the front door and taking time to really listen to what your child has been up to is crucial. Try to set aside time each night to help them with everyday tasks such as homework or getting ready for school the next day.

Find out what's going on in their life

Don't just ask your child the standard: "How was your day?" and settle for a shrugged "OK" in response. Asking questions that require more than a yes or no answer will open up the possibility of real conversation between you.

For instance, you should ask: "What did you learn in English today?"

Remember one-on-one time

If you have more than one child, try to spend time with them individually, whether it's on the PlayStation or cooking. Doing things you both enjoy helps develop skills and interests.

Help with schoolwork

Reading stories instills good habits and creates a great bedtime routine. At weekends, surf the internet with your kids, visiting sites such as Wikipedia or help them research school projects.

Volunteer to pick up your child from school, taking the opportunity to visit their classroom and meet their teacher.

And always make it a point to attend events like the PTA meeting at your child's school. It is embarassing to be alone.

Carve out some Dad-only time

Keep Saturday or Sunday mornings as "Dad-only" time. Learn your child's morning routine well enough to get them out of bed, dressed and fed. And plan something fun to do - a trip to the swings or reading a favourite book aloud. To spend quality time together is more crucial.

If you only see your kids at weekends...

Twenty per cent of all dependent children now live apart from their fathers and the majority say that losing contact is the worst aspect of their parents' separation. Make concrete arrangements - and then stick to them.

Forget expensive trips or gifts - your children will benefit most from time spent doing everyday activities such as going to the park. Try to get on well with your former partner - presenting a united front on boundaries and discipline will make your children feel more secure and give them a positive relationship to look up to.